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September 23rd
229 notes
9:44 pm

September 23rd
2 notes
8:28 pm
Anonymous: Dear Natasha, my best friend found a new friend but whenever she's with him and I'm there, she forgets about me. I can't tell her it bothers me because I used to do the same to her. The way they talk reminds me of my old friend and I and it hurts..

I’m sorry to hear that :( I’m sure she means no harm by this. She’s probably just enjoying her friend’s company. But there’s also no harm in letting her know too. Maybe you can say sorry for doing the same to her before. Just talk it over with her. Have an open and honest conversation.

September 23rd
43 notes
11:50 am

Dear September,

nostalgicjoy:

You’re almost about to bid me goodbye. I’m not fond of goodbyes, but for this instance, I am glad to stand by the sidelines and wave at you from afar. You were half kind and half demanding. You had so much promise, but you half-fullfilled some and half-listened to the others. You were quite a whirlwind. I enjoyed your cooler touch compared to August’s hot rays. As I’ve said before when you greeted me hello, I’ve never been fond of you, September. But this year, you were kinder to me than the last. You were more mellow and calming, even though you had your mood swings of sunshine and rain. But I’m ready to welcome October. I’m ready for an even cooler touch.

September 23rd
7 notes
9:00 am

I have missed it, you know? It’s weird to think about it retrospectively and how everything led to here and now. I’m not even sure words would suffice. But I’ve missed it. I’m not sure what tomorrow will bring, and that’s okay. I’m trying not to be scared of uncertainty anymore.

September 22nd
32 notes
9:37 pm

So many places I want to visit. So many people I want to see. So many moments I want to experience.

September 22nd
21 notes
7:44 pm
Anonymous: any reading recommendations?

anything by Mitch Albom
Angels and Demons, Da Vinci Code, Digital Fortress, Deception Point
Eleanor and Park
Nineteen Minutes
Harry Potter series
The Geek Shall Inherit the Earth
Great Expectations
The Great Gatsby
Othello
To Kill a Mockingbird
13 Reasons Why
Lovely Bones
The Outsiders
The Uglies series
Every Day
Never Let Me Go
Candide
The Memory Keeper’s Daughter
The End of Forever
Invisible Man
Of Mice and Men
Tuck Everlasting
The Beginning of Everything

September 22nd
4 notes
7:00 pm
Anonymous: Nat you're so articulate and inspiring. I was just wondering what you are studying, I am struggling with what to do with my life. Thanks

I’m majoring in biology and psychology. It’s okay not to know what you want to do with your life. You don’t have to have things all figured out right now. I’m in my second year in college, and I still have no idea what to do. I used to be a pre-med student, but towards the end of my first year, I realized that I’m not that passionate about it any longer. I used to, but my interest waned and it freaked me out to be honest. I spent all my life wanting to do something, only to realize it’s not really something I want to do. And that’s okay! (trust me, I talked to a career development counselor at school, the health professions advisor, and my parents about this). It was scary, but at the same time, I was glad I realized it earlier rather than later. I just know I love bio and psych, so I’m doing both and taking classes that I find interesting. I think that’s where it starts, you know? You figure out where your interests lie, then go for it. I’m not sure yet what I’m going to do with a double major in bio and psych, but that’s okay too. Part of growing up is finding yourself. You don’t need to have it all figured out. Someday, something will click and you’ll know what to do. For now, explore your choices. Don’t limit yourself. If you love chemistry, then take organic chem. If you love english, then take literature classes. If you love learning about people and society, then take a sociology class. Balance between taking classes you like/want and exploring others. Trust me, it makes the college experience more fun and interesting if you do. I wish you all the best! :)

September 22nd
2 notes
5:50 pm
Anonymous: Do you believe you can hide something for a long while (let's say no one found out) and then decide you want to ignore it and just never talk about it with anyone or remember it?

I think for a while, yeah, you can. But eventually, something will happen that will trigger the memory to resurface. You can not talk about it all you want and you can try to bury it as deep as you could to the point that you believe you’ve forgotten about it. But not everything completely goes away or remains dormant.

September 21st
29 notes
10:18 pm

I suppose if you disappear, only a couple would notice, fewer would care, and even fewer would try to find you.

September 21st
43 notes
9:32 pm

Dear September,

You’re almost about to bid me goodbye. I’m not fond of goodbyes, but for this instance, I am glad to stand by the sidelines and wave at you from afar. You were half kind and half demanding. You had so much promise, but you half-fullfilled some and half-listened to the others. You were quite a whirlwind. I enjoyed your cooler touch compared to August’s hot rays. As I’ve said before when you greeted me hello, I’ve never been fond of you, September. But this year, you were kinder to me than the last. You were more mellow and calming, even though you had your mood swings of sunshine and rain. But I’m ready to welcome October. I’m ready for an even cooler touch.

(Source: nostalgicjoy)

September 21st
6 notes
8:58 pm
Anonymous: Natasha, you're really amazing.You're always so helpful and seems to care about others and the way you help people.. I bet it helps them a lot to know that they have someone to look for when they are lonely, confused or too embarrassed. Keep helping!

I am actually a bit overwhelmed by the amount of messages I got asking for advice during these past few days because really, I’m just a 19-year-old girl who has no idea what she’s talking about in all reality haha. But she’s trying to be as helpful as she can be :) Thank you though, dear anon. I hope the sun is shining brightly where you are (or the moon is offering you some warmth).

September 21st
7 notes
8:03 pm
Anonymous: do you agree with the statement: 'once a cheater, always a cheater?'

No. While I don’t agree with that statement, it doesn’t mean I won’t be cautious of that person from then on. The trust is damaged, but saying that once someone cheated, that person will always be a cheater is too final and too over-dismissive. It’s too misguided. It’s like saying, once a drinker, always a drinker. If you did something wrong, does that mean you’ll always do that from now on? I’m not giving cheaters a way out or a loophole, but I don’t like generalizing someone just from one act. I’ll be wary and that person has to regain my trust, but I’m not going to go as far as to use the word always in that statement.

September 21st
19 notes
7:21 pm
Anonymous: What do I do when end up convinced that no one is ever going to fall in love with me?

You get up in the morning, stand in front of a mirror, and tell the person you see in the reflection at least five good things s/he possesses. You’ve got to fall in love with yourself. At the end of the day, you’re still your own person, whether or not you have someone special in your life. You think no one is going to fall in love with you? Well, try to convince yourself otherwise. Remind yourself the beauty that you are. Be that “one” who’s going to fall in love with you. It’s not always easy…this self-love thing. I think that’s why we turn to find someone else who we hope is going to fall in love with us. And someone will eventually. Don’t try so hard to look for it. It’ll happen, maybe when you least expect it. For now, convince yourself that you can be your own person. Fall in love with yourself because there’s so much to love about you.

September 21st
7 notes
5:56 pm
Anonymous: It has been almost six months since the guy I called home for five months forgot about me and I still can't move on or stop measuring my worth by him. Do you have any advice to help me move past something that no longer exists but clouds my days with the heartache of not being enough? xx

Don’t exhaust yourself for someone because love shouldn’t exhaust you. Don’t weigh yourself with the idea of him. You see, the moving on is easy I think. The hard part is trying. Once you wake up from your heartaches and cloudy days, you just do it. It just clicks with you. But to be honest, I’m not sure I’m making sense even. But I know that you shouldn’t measure your worth by him. Or by anyone, for that matter. You are your own person, just as much as he is his own person. You were someone before him and you can be someone after him. That doesn’t mean you have to forget. No. Just don’t romanticize the heartaches. Don’t romanticize your cloudy days. Take who you are now, find who you were before, and try to make yourself anew with those pieces.

September 21st
3 notes
4:59 pm
Anonymous: DearNJ, I like a boy but when I forget him for a while, he starts talking to me and then I reply but when I reply he ignores. and I know that if I'll talk to him about it it'll be awkward because he's not looking for a serious friendship/relationship

Hey, awkwardness aside, I think it’s still important to address it to him because you’re not being treated well. Just calmly and kindly point it out to him (what he’s doing). But also, try to understand his side since he’s not looking for anything serious. I wouldn’t want you to get hurt, okay? Just be careful, lovely. Take careee.

s.t.